Bringing yourself to orgasm with a vibrator can be an exciting challenge. It takes time and practice, but it’s well worth it!
Start out with the basics. Use your sex toy all over your body, not just in and around your clitoris. This can be extremely satisfying, and it will increase your arousal as you move around the area.
Start off slow
A vibrator is a tool to help you explore your sexual response. You may have some clues about what turns you on, but the vibrator can bring you to new climaxes and teach you things about your body that you didn’t know before. So it’s important to start off slow and get used to the vibrations and the feel of your own skin before turning on the motor.
You should also find a comfortable place to masturbate, where you can be alone and unbothered. Turn the vibrator on a low setting and slowly run it over your whole body, paying particular attention to erogenous zones. The more relaxed you are, the easier it will be to reach a climax. And don’t worry if you don’t orgasm the first time — it can take a while to get used to using a vibrator and figure out what works for you.
Once you’ve gotten used to the feeling of the vibrations, try using it on different parts of your body. Start with your feet and hands, then move on to your legs, arms, belly, and throat. If you’re not getting the results you want, try changing the position of the vibrator or the pressure you apply. It’s also worth experimenting with different techniques, like grinding or rubbing. It’s possible to over-stimulate yourself and lose sensation for a short while, so don’t push too hard.
Work your way up
For many people, a vibrator can be the first time they have a climax on their own. It’s important to work your way up with the vibrations and take your time. This will give you a chance to learn how the tool feels on your body and what works for you. You may find that certain areas of your body need more or less pressure, while others require a lot of stimulation to feel pleasurable. It’s also okay if you don’t get to the point of a climax this first time.
One thing that helps many people achieve a climax is anticipation. It’s a natural part of the pleasure process to get excited about what you’re doing. This is why many people like to keep their vibrator turned on throughout the day so that they can feel pleasure in anticipation of when they’ll use it again.
Whether you’re alone or with a partner, a vibrator can bring a lot of pleasure to the bedroom. But it’s important to know how to use it properly to avoid pain and damage. So, start slow, work your way up, and don’t be afraid to experiment with different techniques.
Don’t overdo it
There’s a big myth that overuse of vibrators can reduce sensitivity to the point where you won’t be able to climax without one. It’s terrifying to think about, but it’s also not true. Vibrators are tools that can be used safely if you follow some simple rules.
Obviously, you want to use plenty of lube and avoid overdoing it. But it’s also important to experiment with different pressure and intensity levels. Depending on your anatomy, different areas of the vagina can be very sensitive. Applying pressure to your G spot or Skene’s gland, for example, can trigger orgasm. Experimenting with rubbing and grinding can add an extra level of sensation. And don’t forget about different positions — getting into a new position can often lead to orgasm.
Of course, it’s also important to curb your psychological attachment to your vibrator. It’s not easy, but it’s possible. For starters, stop jackhammering your clit with the highest vibe setting. Slow down and play around with it, and use loads of lube (every sex educator loves lube for its arousal-enhancing properties). Eventually you may even be able to go analogue and just use your hands or a non-vibrating dildo. Orgasms are fun, but they’re also a great tool for learning about yourself and your body. And you can’t do that if you only rely on a toy to get your kink on.
Keep it clean
If you want to be able to take your vibrator to sexy new places, you need to keep it clean. Especially when you’re just starting out, don’t use any dirty hands or spit on your vibrator. This could introduce germs to it and decrease your pleasure. Make sure you clean it after each use and before and after each time you put it in your clitoris. Also make sure to use a safe lube that’s compatible with your vibe. Oil-based lubes might be more apt to damage the internal components of your toy. And, of course, never use dead batteries in your toy — that can seriously fuck with your vibrations!
Once you feel like you have a good handle on the basics, you can start playing around with your vibe. Try putting it in your clitoris and masturbating in a variety of positions to see what feels best for you. And, remember that masturbation is totally normal and healthy for women (and men). It helps you figure out what kind of stimulation makes you orgasm and can help increase arousal during sex.
You can even practice using your vibrator for sex with a partner. Just be sure to explain that you’re not using it to replace your partner or to hurt them, but rather as an additional tool that can ENHANCE sex. Most guys will get it, but it’s a great idea to bring this up early in the relationship to avoid any surprises down the line.
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