Figuring out how to use a vibrator can be a bit daunting, especially for a first-timer. Luckily, we’ve got sex experts here to help you find your way around your new sex toy!
Just remember to always wash your vibe and use condoms during sex to reduce the risk of STI transmission. And don’t forget to play around with it!
How to Use a Vibrator
Whether you’re flying solo or enjoying partner sex, using a vibrator can be an effective way to amp up sensation. Sex therapists and sex-positivity advocates have long been advocating for vibrators to be a regular part of your pleasure toolkit. Bringing one into your bedroom routine can be a great way to figure out what pleasure zones make you tick and how they can be stimulated.
Some vibrators, like bullets and wands, are designed specifically for clitoral stimulation. They can be run along the length of your clitoral hood, pressed against the glans (head) of your clitoris and vulva area, or rubbed in light circles on your glans and vulva. A vibrator can also be used to stimulate the clitoris in positions you might not normally be able to reach on your own, such as reverse cowgirl and spooning.
Masturbation with a vibrator can be a highly satisfying experience for many people. If you’re new to masturbating with a toy, start by playing with it in a non-sexual manner. Then, apply lubricant to both the toy and the areas it will be stimulating to minimize friction that might cause discomfort.
Some erogenous zones respond differently to stimulation than others, so don’t be afraid to experiment with different areas, including the neck, nipples, back of the knee, inner thigh, testicles, shaft and perineum. It’s also worth experimenting with the different patterns that can be achieved with the vibration on your penis, such as circular and pulsing movements.
Tips for Using a Vibrator with a Partner
For couples, using a vibrator can add a new level of pleasure and excitement. It can also be a fun way to bond and connect. If you’re both new to the vibes, start out with a massage and slowly move it around your partner’s body, focusing on areas like the inner thighs and groin. Then, if you have a small vibrator like a bullet or wand, use it as clitoral stimulation or on the sensitive frenulum just under the head of the penis. You can also try using it in more exotic positions like reverse cowgirl and spooning to stimulate the nipples, balls, or vulva area. Just be sure to communicate with your partner and let them know what feels good to you and what doesn’t.
Consider shopping for a vibe together. Whether you’re browsing in-person or online, it can be a fun and adventurous experience to explore different types of toys. It’s also a great opportunity to build trust and confidence with your partner.
If you’re comfortable with it, you could even experiment with masturbating together to see how the vibrations feel on different parts of your bodies. Just remember to always apply lube before using any toys, says Fleming, as it can make the sensations more intense and even cause orgasm. She recommends using a water-based lube, as it’ll be gentler on skin than silicone.
Tips for Using a Vibrator on a Penis
Using a vibrator on the penis is not as common as using it with the vagina, but it can be a great way to stimulate clitoral and vulva areas. Adding a bit of lube and taking your time can help make it much more comfortable, especially when first trying it out. For best results, use a specially designed male vibrator or a larger one that can also be used on the anus or prostate for safe anal stimulation.
If this is your first time using a vibrator on the penis, consider starting out with something small and discreet like a bullet vibe or a wand massager. You can also try a clit sucker, which is similar to a vibrator but only has the tip of the toy and is more flexible for a broader range of stimulation. Be sure to use a body-safe lubricant for the most comfort and communication is key, as always, especially when first testing out any sex toys.
Many men enjoy having their testicles and scrotum directly stimulated with a vibrator, but some also find it pleasurable to have the G-spot (the area between the scrotum and anus) or perineum directly stimulated as well. Again, there is no right or wrong way to do this, and it’s important to experiment with different strokes and speeds to find what feels best for you.
Tips for Using a Vibrator on Yourself
A vibrator can be a great sexual tool for self-pleasure. Before using it, take some time to get relaxed and aroused: Watch porn, read erotica, touch your body. Then, gently insert the toy and use it to explore the pressure, friction, and speed of your own pleasure. Remember, it can be a bit more challenging to orgasm when you’re using the tool by yourself — but this is also because you have to work harder to reach that point of climax.
Try different patterns and settings on the toy as well. Some may feel too intense for a first-timer, while others might be pleasantly orgasmic. It’s important to give yourself a chance to experience all of them, especially since you never know when you’ll discover a sensation you really like!
If you want to experiment with clitoral stimulation, consider getting a bullet or wand-shaped vibe. These are designed specifically for clitoral stimulation and can be used in various ways, from running it along the length of your clitoral hood to tapping it against your glans and making circular motions around the area. Just remember to always use a good amount of lube (preferably water-based on silicone vibrators) as this will increase comfort and arousal. Also, be sure to wash your device after every use to avoid bacteria build-up and STI transmission.
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