Vibrators and other sex toys have traditionally been seen as female-oriented, but recent surveys show that men use vibrators as well. Whether they’re using a cock ring to help close the orgasm gap, or a sleeve to explore new stroke possibilities, these men are discovering a whole new world of pleasure.
What are the benefits of using a vibrator?
Vibrators can be fun, erotic, and, depending on the type of toy you choose, even effective at stimulating your clitoris. They can also be a great tool for masturbation, which comes with a whole host of benefits (including mood-boosting hormones).
Many people who use vibrators use them for pleasure alone or with a partner. They can be used on all erogenous zones, including the labia and clitoral hood, but are most often used to stimulate the clitoris.
A vibrator can be an intimate and sensual sex toy for couples, especially if you opt for one with multiple speeds and settings. They can also be used as a way to tease a partner, either by gently touching them or moving the vibrator around the area they want to be stimulated.
It’s important to keep in mind, however, that just because you have a vibrator doesn’t mean you can skip using condoms during sex to avoid the risk of an STD. You should also make sure you clean your toy regularly, and especially after sharing it with a partner, to avoid the spread of infections like bacterial vaginosis and yeast infection.
Vibrators can also be an important sexual freedom tool for some people, especially those with a history of sex anxiety or low self-esteem. They can help to build confidence and give you a safe space to explore your sexual desires without worrying about judgement from others.
How do I use a vibrator?
Vibrations can boost arousal, help you get in the mood for sex, inspire new explorations and conversations with your partner, increase orgasms, and more. Plus, they’re a great way to discover where you prefer to be touched.
When you’re first starting out with vibrators, it’s a good idea to start small and work your way up. Try a vibrating ring or clitoris vibe and then move on to other parts of the body, like the breasts or thighs. And remember, it’s important to use lube (water-based if you have silicone toys) and a condom.
It’s also a good idea to practice proper maintenance, including cleaning your vibrator regularly and sanitizing between uses. This helps reduce the risk of STIs, especially if you’re sharing your sex toy with your partner.
If you’re looking to make your own vibrations a little more intense, experiment with the different settings on your vibrator. You’ll be surprised at what the smallest adjustments can do. And remember that half the fun is exploring sensations you’ve never felt before. So go ahead and put that vibrator to the test — it’s sure to be orgasmic!
How do I get my partner to use a vibrator?
While many people use vibrators alone, a number of guys also enjoy using them during partnered sex. Getting your partner to use a vibrator with you may seem intimidating, but it’s actually quite simple. You just need to frame the idea in a positive light. It can help to think of the vibrator as a tool that will enhance your pleasure during sex and can bring you both even more orgasms. You can then approach your partner with confidence and a willingness to experiment.
To start, you may want to have a conversation about it before things get hot and heavy. This will prevent you from surprising your partner and making them feel nervous or uncomfortable. You can also take your time shopping together for a vibrator that you both like. Once you have a toy, try it out and figure out what settings work best for both of you. Be sure to always use condoms during sex with a vibrator, regardless of whether or not your partner is using it.
When you’re ready to try it during sex, have your partner sit behind you (doggie-style) so that they can place the vibrator around their penis or clitoris. They can experiment with different vibration modes and positions, checking in frequently with verbal cues like “do you still like this?” and “can we go harder?”
What should I do if my partner doesn’t want to use a vibrator?
There’s no shame in using a vibrator, and it can be a great addition to your sexual pleasure. But if your partner is resistant, try having a calm conversation about it and expressing your own desire for mutual pleasure. It’s also helpful to talk about how the vibrations feel on different parts of the body (and there are many different ways to use a vibrator) so that you can help them find what’s right for them.
It’s worth pointing out that vibrators have been marketed as a women’s product, and some men believe this has created a perception that they are somehow “less manly” for using them. This is a huge myth, and it’s important to talk about how they can help satisfy you during sex.
If your partner is still reluctant, try shopping for a vibrator together so that they can experience the different settings and textures and choose one that feels good to them. It’s a great way to bond, and it will give them the opportunity to try it out on themselves before using it on you. Then, when you do bring out the vibrator during sex, be sure to take it slowly and gently. Instead of just shoving it onto the penis, run it gently across their nipples or around their torso to start with and then get closer to their clitoris as they become more comfortable.
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