Masturbating without a vibrator can be tough. Maybe your vibe died or you want to try a new method of self-pleasure that’s less dependent on sex toys.
A pillow, a rolled-up towel, or a detachable showerhead are all classic DIY sex toy options that nearly everyone has at home. But these aren’t the only ways to masturbate without a vibrational device.
1. Lying on your back
A clitoral vibrator can be a fun toy, but it’s not your only option. You can also stimulate your clitoris by grinding it against objects—like pillows, the bath faucet, or a broom handle.
Just make sure you use lube to avoid friction, advises Marin. It’s also important to try out a variety of techniques to see which ones feel best for you and what your body responds to the most.
It’s not uncommon to develop a habit of using the same technique for masturbation, and that can lead to “vibe fatigue,” which means you won’t get orgasms as easily. To avoid this, rotate different strokes for three minutes each and stick with the one that feels best, Malin says. It’s also good to engage your other bodily muscles while you’re masturbating, such as tightening your toes and fingers, or squeezing your abs. This can make the sensations of the clitoris even more intense. Or try a new position, like sitting or lying down. This can give you a deeper, full-body experience, and might feel more natural to your body.
2. Lying on your side
If you don’t have a vibrator, you can still find ways to touch yourself. The key is to get comfortable, relax, and be patient with yourself. Masturbation is a process, and it takes time to master. Try starting with exploring your body, and then slowly work your way toward touching your clitoris. You can use lube to enhance your experience and increase the pleasure.
Many women find that one side of their clitoris or labia feels more sensitive than the other. If this is the case for you, you can try stroking the area with your fingers or using a body-safe item that vibrates, like a vibrating toothbrush or silicone face cleanser (just make sure it’s clean!).
You can also turn on a soothing, relaxing podcast or sexy music to help you feel turned on. There are even masturbation apps that can offer you a variety of sexual pleasure-inducing techniques and guides to help you get started. Just be sure to keep a bottle of lube nearby, as friction can hurt.
3. Lying on your stomach
It’s easy to get stuck in a masturbation rut, especially if you find that one method gets you orgasm after orgasm. So if you need to break out of your routine, try these sexy techniques that work without a vibrator.
One way to make the process more interesting is to massage your clitoris and clitoral hood. For many people, this can bring on orgasms, says sexologist Emily Morse. Try rubbing in a circular motion, adding pressure and stroking gently. This can be particularly satisfying for those who have a hard time getting climax with their hands, she adds.
Another way to try this is by crossing your legs and bouncing them up and down. This will bring sensation to your clitoris and labia minora or vaginal walls, she explains.
And if you don’t have a sex toy, there are plenty of penis-like objects in your home that will stimulate and arouse you. Just remember to choose something that is clean and retrievable, she notes. Using someone else’s item (like a hairbrush handle or toothbrush) can lead to infections.
4. Lying on your side with your knees up
For a little light BDSM, have your guy loosely tie you up and use the vibrator on you as he sees fit. He can use it on your clitoral hood or even on the inside of your vaginal canal, if you’re into that kind of thing.
If direct contact on your clitoris makes you uncomfortable, try using the vibrator as a buffer. Instead of pressing it against your clit, place the length of the vibe on your clitoral hood (the little flap of skin that covers your clitoris). This is one of the most common ways to masturbate without a vibrator and it’s a good idea to use lubricant with this technique, too.
Trying different positions is important to explore all of the ways that you can enjoy hands-free masturbation. It’s also a great way to break the habit of relying on a specific toy for orgasms and can help you become more responsive to pleasure from touch in general (think: partnered sex). Plus, it will help you develop a more varied experience with your body so you don’t lose interest or feel bored with the same old thing.
5. Lying on your side with your feet up
Many sex-boosting articles provide strategies for partners, but tips on solo masturbation are harder to find. That’s a shame, because orgasms are just as fun alone as with a partner—and they can help you build more sensitivity to sensation and learn what feels good in your own body.
If you’re not used to self-pleasure, experimenting can feel uncomfortable. But there are plenty of ways to start, and all it takes is a little patience.
It’s also important to have a distraction-free space, especially if you’re trying to work up to orgasm. “If you’re trying to do this and there are dirty dishes in the sink or a call from your mom comes through, that’s going to mess up your vibe,” Laureano says.
Once you’ve found a position that feels right for your body, it’s time to start exploring the insides of your vagina. Try touching your vulva or clitoris with your fingers, stroking your clitoral hood, or rubbing your lips and labia. And don’t forget to use lube.
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