Whether you’re trying out a new vibrator solo or with a partner, make sure to clean it before and after each use. Fungi, bacteria, and viruses can transfer between orifices when a sex toy isn’t cleaned properly.
Also, consider adding some lube before stroking or using your toy. It’s an easy way to increase pleasure and may even help you climax.
Bullet Vibrators
With its petite size and powerful vibrations, a bullet vibrator can add a whole new dimension to clitoral stimulation. It’s a great toy for first-timers who want to try vibrators or those looking to upgrade their old ones.
Start with the lowest setting and gradually ramp it up. Vibration can be intense if you aren’t used to it, so be careful at first and be sure that the toy feels comfortable to hold. If it’s too much, move on to the next setting until you find the perfect spot.
Once you feel confident with a bullet’s settings, don’t be afraid to experiment. Some vibrators come with a few stellar settings that you’ll reach for again and again, while others have dozens of possibilities for variation. Be sure that the vibrator you choose is comfortable to hold, especially if you plan to use it with a partner.
Some bullet vibes come with a harness that sits around your torso or inner thighs to keep the toy secure during play. Others can be slipped into the anus for internal stimulation. If you’re using a bullet for partnered play, consider asking your partner to try it with you. They may love tracing the tip of the bullet over their clitoris, nipples or other erogenous zones. If they haven’t tried a vibrator before, you can suggest that they do so with a body-safe lube like Good Clean Love.
Wand Vibrators
Unlike bullet or rabbit vibrators, which are inserted in the anus, wand vibes can be used anywhere on the body. In fact, many people find it more comfortable and intimate to use a wand on themselves while masturbating.
Typically, wands don’t come with fancy attachments or accessories, but they can be combined with sex toys to enhance pleasure and provide new sensations. Many wands are made of smooth, nonporous silicone that feels wonderful against the skin, and they’re easy to clean. If you’re planning on using a wand in the shower or tub, look for a waterproof model. Otherwise, be sure to wipe it down well with baby or sex towel wipes before each use. You can also choose to use a water-based personal lubricant with your wand, as this will be gentler on the toy and the skin.
As with any sex toy, it’s best to start with the lowest power setting and gradually increase the intensity. If the wand seems too intense, place it over your underwear to soften the feeling or try placing a pillow between you and the toy. It’s also a good idea to experiment with different speeds and patterns on the wand before using it in front of your partner. Stimulating a woman’s nipples activates the same region of the brain as her clitoris, so teasing her nipples with the wand can heighten arousal before she heads downtown.
Sex Toys
Bringing sex toys into partnered play can open up entirely new realms of pleasure. But with so many options, it can be hard to know where to start.
If you’re ready to start exploring pleasure with a sex toy, a bullet vibrator is a great place to begin. They’re small, discreet and easy to use with a partner. Simply ask your partner to hold the bullet against the clitoris for stimulation, and increase the intensity as desired. For extra titillation, consider pairing your bullet with a vibrating ring or wearing one of these amazing vibrating knickers.
Another great option for sex toys is the Wartenberg Wheel, which was originally designed by a neurologist to test nerve reactions but quickly became a fetish item among kink enthusiasts. It fits over the shaft and feels like a giant finger inserted into your hole, stimulating all the right places. Applying water-based lubricant and cycling through the different patterns is sure to lead to intense sensations.
If you’re looking for more of a thrill, try a sexy vibrator that features internal weighted balls for a bouncy feeling. This toy from Dame Products is perfect for clitoral and vaginal play and can be used with or without a harness. Just remember to always apply a generous amount of water-based lubricant before inserting, whether you’re using it anally or vaginally.
Sex Accessories
There are all sorts of sex toys out there that can stimulate different parts of the body, and many can be used alone for self-pleasure or with a partner. These include vibrators of all shapes and sizes, as well as sex toys designed to be inserted into the body—think dildos, plugs, masturbation sleeves, cock rings, and anal vibes.
One of the newest styles of clitoral vibes, sometimes called suction toys, uses air pressure to tap and pulse the clitoris. They’re not the easiest to use, but if you position the little nozzle opening of the toy right over your clit hood and add a drop of lube, the sensation can be intense.
Wand vibes are another popular style. These long, skinny wands have heads that give intense vibration and come in multiple patterns and intensities. These are perfect for stimulating the clitoris, but they can also be used to explore other areas like the nipples, anus, and scrotum and testicles for men.
There’s still a lot of societal weirdness about using toys in sex, and some couples may not be ready to try them with each other until they feel comfortable with the idea. That’s okay, and it might take some time experimenting with a few different kinds of toys—with or without your partner(s)—to find what feels best for you.
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