Squirting can be a really fun and sensual experience for both partners. But it takes a little practice to figure out exactly what makes you squirt.
To squirt, you need to stimulate the G-area, which is erectile tissue that sits on the front wall of your vagina (every woman’s different). Here are some tips:
1. Get yourself aroused.
For women who want to squirt, it’s important to get their bodies and minds in the right place. This means making sure they are sexually aroused, not numb or bored. This can be done by masturbating alone or, if they have a partner, by having them finger their clitoris and vulva. It can also be done by using toys that stimulate the clitoral hood and clitoral shaft.
For those who are trying to squirt with a partner, it can be helpful to use lubricants (coconut oil is cheap and a great lube) to find the squirting “G-spot.” It’s also good to massage the vulva and clitoris to increase pleasure.
It’s also a good idea to start off slow and build up arousal for 15 or 30 minutes before trying for an orgasm. Squirting is a form of self-pleasure that can be intensely satisfying and requires patience and perseverance to learn how to do. A squirting orgasm may even feel more powerful and intense than a regular orgasm. It may take a while to get used to the sensations, but it’s worth the effort for many women.
2. Get your clitoris in the mood.
As any woman knows, squirting is not something that comes naturally to everyone. So if you want to do it, you’ll need some practice (and some lubrication).
According to sex educator Kenneth Play, stimulating the G-area is one of the most reliable ways to make yourself squirt. He says the best way to do this is with a finger or clitoral stimulation toy, and he suggests starting off with a firm, consistent pressure.
Another key part of the process is getting your pelvic muscles in the mood. These are a hammock-like set of muscles that hold in your lower organs, and they can be turned on by manual or internal stimulation. A great way to do this is by using a vibrator, like the Liberator Fascinator Throw (which is designed to soak up squirts and other fluids).
Keep in mind that your body might not squirt in exactly the way you think it will. While some women do experience a “squirt,” it often looks and feels more like a drip or dribble. And that’s okay!
3. Don’t try to orgasm too fast.
Even with all the right positions, toys, and techniques, it’s not guaranteed that a woman will squirt every time. And that’s okay! Remember, squirting is about pleasure, not competition. If squirting doesn’t feel good for you or your partner, try something else.
Once you’re arouse and have your G-area in the mood, try rubbing it with fingers or with a toy. Make sure you use plenty of lube, and explore different ways to touch the area.
For some women, external stimulation of the clitoris can get them to orgasm faster than internal stroking. But this can vary from person to person, so it’s worth trying both.
Another option is to have your partner massage or lick the area around the clitoris. Some women love this—and it’s great for intimacy! But be careful that you don’t go too far down into the vagina. That could be uncomfortable for both of you, and may cause irritation or discomfort. Be sure to use a clean finger, and wash your hands before touching the clitoris or any other sensitive areas.
4. Don’t try to force it.
Squirting doesn’t feel good for everyone (just like orgasms in general) and doesn’t always happen for anyone. If you’re trying to squirt, it’s okay if you don’t achieve the experience you’d like or your partner doesn’t either.
It’s important to keep in mind that squirting isn’t the same as ejaculation, but rather fluid released from the Skene’s glands or the urethral sponge when arousal is stimulated in the area. It’s possible that this fluid can also be sucked in and out of the urethra and bladder, although research is still ongoing on this topic.
Many women report feeling a sensation like they need to pee while squirting, which can discourage them from continuing to try and may make it harder for them to relax enough to squirt. It’s often recommended that women have already used the restroom before trying to squirt in order to reduce these concerns. It’s also a good idea to be hydrated and have some lube within reach. The lubrication can help with the release and make the experience more enjoyable.
5. Don’t worry about peeing.
A full bladder can be a barrier to squirting. If you’re trying to ejaculate, and you start to feel like you need to pee, that is totally normal and could be the sign of an impending squirt. If you think you’re going to need the bathroom during sex, then make sure you’ve hydrated (which increases the body’s natural lubrication) and put down a towel or sex blanket ahead of time.
Squirting is a high-intensity process that requires lots of pressure on the upper internal wall of the vagina, often with your fingers or toys. This pushes on the urethral sponge, which can cause a small amount of fluid to be expelled into the scrotum and down the penis or clitoris.
The squirt may not happen every time, but it should become easier over time. Having a good relationship and focusing on pleasure is key, as is finding what types of sexual positions and activities arouse you the most. And remember that a squirting orgasm isn’t the be-all and end-all of sexual pleasure, either. You’ll find that for some people, squirting enhances orgasms, while for others it does nothing at all and may even detract from them.
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