Oral sex is a powerful tool to build intimacy and sexual confidence. It can also be an intense experience to achieve orgasm with.
Knowing how long oral sex should last is important to make sure it’s safe and satisfying. We recommend using a condom for men and a dental dam for women to protect against STIs.
1. Know Your Limits
When it comes to oral sex, effective communication is key. It’s important to know your partner’s preferences and boundaries to make the experience as satisfying and pleasurable as possible for both parties. For example, some people may enjoy deep-throating or frenulum stimulation. Using lubrication can also help reduce discomfort.
According to Dr Alyssa Dweck of the Mt Sinai School of Medicine, oral sex promotes intimacy. She says that couples tend to ’let themselves go’ more during oral sex than during penetrative sex and this can lead to better sexual performance.
It’s also a good idea to talk about protection before you try out oral sex. This will help ensure you both are safe and protected against STIs and unwanted pregnancy. In addition, talking about protection can also make the experience feel more exciting and intense for both partners.
2. Be Prepared
If you’re a newbie to oral sex, it’s important that you take the time to prepare yourself. This means practicing and experimenting with mouth play to learn what feels best for you and your partner.
It’s also important to communicate your desires to your partner. Be honest about what you are comfortable with and don’t be afraid to ask questions.
It’s also helpful to discuss hygiene and protection before you get started. This can help ease anxiety about what you’re getting into and can also prevent complications like bacterial vaginosis. Remember, even if you’re an expert at oral sex, STIs and bacteria can still be transmitted via mouth to vagina. Using dental dams can help reduce the risk of infection. This is especially important for women who are breastfeeding or may be taking birth control.
3. Be Honest
It’s important to communicate openly and honestly with your partner about sexual desires and boundaries, especially when it comes to oral sex. If your partner is uncomfortable with oral sex, listen to them and explore other forms of sexual pleasure. You may find that you’re both happier with other methods of sexual stimulation, such as edging or manual stimulation.
Oral sex can be intensely pleasurable for both partners. However, it’s also important for couples to be honest about their sexual preferences. If your partner doesn’t enjoy giving oral sex, ask them why. They might have a reason, such as trauma or concerns about STIs, that you can address together. This can help you both make decisions that are more satisfying. Ultimately, you should always be able to enjoy sexual pleasure that makes you happy.
4. Ask for What You Want
The best way to make sure oral sex is going well is to be honest with your partner. If they don’t feel a rush or want to stop, let them know.
If they feel excited, try to match their enthusiasm by offering more tongue action. This can also act as foreplay and increase their pleasure.
Finally, it’s important to use a lot of lubrication during oral sex. Using spit or a flavored lube will help to prevent friction and reduce the chances of a painful experience.
It’s also a good idea to ask your partner what turns them on during oral sex. If they tell you it’s not their favorite, it might be time to switch up your techniques and try something new. There are plenty of other sexual experiences that can be just as satisfying, so don’t give up.
5. Listen to Your Partner
Sometimes it takes longer than expected to reach an orgasm during oral sex. It’s important to stay focused on your partner and keep them engaged. Try using your fingers to play with their lips, chin and neck. You can also use your hands to grab, clutch or rub other parts of their body, like the inner thighs and hips. Audible sounds, such as long “mhm’s” and vibrations can add to the pleasure too.
Be sure to ask your partner if they’re comfortable and how much oral sex they want. You don’t want to sabotage their experience or create resentment over it. Remember, there’s no right or wrong answer when it comes to sexual preferences. It’s just about what works best for you both. Then you can just enjoy!
6. Stay Focused
Many people think of oral sex as a cursory action that needs to be endured so they can get to the “main event.” If you approach it this way, you’re going to miss out on some serious pleasure.
It’s important to be present and fully focused when giving oral sex. If you’re bored or distracted, your partner will sense it and you won’t be able to turn them on.
One of the best ways to stay centered and enjoy your time together is to breathe deeply. This will help slow your heart rate and increase the duration of your oral sex session without causing ejaculation. Try exhaling as completely as possible for four seconds and inhaling for four. Repeat this 10 times to get centered and enjoy the experience.
7. Breathe
Oral sex can be intense, and it’s important to remember to take a deep breath and slow down. This will help you enjoy the moment and make sure you’re giving the best oral sex you can.
It’s also important to consider your partner’s sensual needs. For example, if they’re more visual and appreciate touches like stroking the head of their penis, you can play to that by gently stroking his head while you run your lips over his outline.
According to a new study by Superdrug Online Doctor, men think blowjobs should last about 11 minutes on average. However, Europeans think it’s a bit shorter, with women thinking about eight minutes is ideal. Whichever way you go, it’s important to communicate your preferences. That way, you can work together to create an enjoyable experience for both of you.
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